How Do I Stop Feeling So Much Fear, Anger and Sadness?
To proceed very far through the desert, you must be willing to meet existential suffering and work it through. In order to do this, the attitude toward pain has to change. This happens when we accept the fact that everything that happens to us has been designed for our spiritual growth. - M. Scott Peck
That real love stuff sounds great, but you can’t even think about getting to positive emotions! You are mired in fear, anger and sadness all of the time. You just need these negative emotions to stop.
Fear, anger, and sadness are not such terrible things. They are God’s energy too, meant to alert you that something is wrong.
They tell you when your perspective is deviating from Truth.
The trouble comes when you don’t allow these negative emotions to flow. When you suppress them, dissociate from them, self-soothe them, or give them to others, you amplify and prolong your suffering. You are a hoarding creature; you can hold onto negative emotions for decades, even a lifetime.
How do you stop negative emotions?
Allow them to flow. Fully express them. This applies to the driver who cut you off in traffic today just as it applies to your childhood wounds of neglect and abuse. Emotions are meant to be felt in the present; if you refuse to feel them in the present, they will keep bubbling up over and over again, trying to be fully felt and expressed.
Hit the punching bag! Rail against the injustice! Curse the person who treated you so unfairly (when you’re alone)! Weep for the dashed dreams. Grieve the losses.
Our troubles with anger have prompted us to shove anger into the shadow while we glorify its supposed opposite: forgiveness.... When anger is not brought forward honorably, the movement to stage three [of trauma] cannot occur, because there will be no container or boundary wherein that sacred movement can occur. - Karla McLaren
When you allow these emotions to fully flow, when you express them fully, something amazing and magical happens.
You feel relief.
And then you receive insight.
You see truth. Magic happens. God reveals to you something that you did not previously know, something that changes your perspective forever, something that opens the doorway to real love.